Discombobulated

Confucius say: Life is like pot luck; everybody is invited if they have something to offer.

Confuse people or self?

Just writing about the word ‘confuse’ is confusing. I don’t know where to start! Maybe a point of relation is required. Hmmm

But before that, why am I even writing about the word ‘confuse’ it’s not such an important word at all. It is relatively negative it has no core value or benefit. It labels a person incompetent.

But still, the word is intriguing. Haven’t you ever had one of those days where you say a word and then ponder over it thinking “this is such a weird word!” pronouncing it feels awkward but yet it’s a word you’ve used before its only that now you feel it’s ‘awkWORD’
My word for the day is ‘Confuse’ and frankly I find it a very funny word. But inadvertently the funnier the words the more serious are its effects.

People get confused in relationships, does he/ she love me or not, is he/ she the one etcetera.

We get confused while deciding whether to run down to the store first or have a bath.
It’s confusing to decide at a restaurant whether you want Indian or Chinese or neither.

Confused...

I guess another way of putting it would be; to be confused is to have uncertainty prevail or indecisiveness, failing to make up our mind.

Why do we live confused, why can’t we just make a decision?

Hah! If it were that simple the word ‘Confuse’ would not exist and I would be without a ‘funny word of the day’.

So basically, if confused is to be indecisive or failing to make up our mind then the original culprit of being confused is our Brain.

The Brain: While cats have retractable claws, eagles have super vision, bats can hear supersonic sounds, dogs see in the night (so do many other animals), and so on we the human race were endowed with THE BRAIN!

The Brain is what makes us the ruling species on earth… pfft!
And it’s the sole cause of our confused state…

Hmm, but why does the brain do that! I guess because we just think too much.

But what do we all think about? God knows, and I’m sure he’s laughing!

'Thinking’ the function of the brain is now the new suspect of our confused state.

We think!

Thinking is not harmful. But thinking too much is basically over analyzing something!

What?

Anything! It could be about food, work, games, and relationships anything!

I guess we think so much that we take leaps and bounds and assume many things along the way hence causing false deductions and therefore leading to confusion.

So then I guess the real cause of confusion is assumption!

We assume things, like here’s an example:
Guy thinking: should I ask that girl out or not what if she slaps me, or worse snubs me off giving me the cold shoulder. I’ll never get over it. What if she laughs in my face and says YOU WISH! And then everyone will laugh at me. I’ll be the laughing stalk of the whole school and then the neighborhood. My friends wouldn’t want to be seen with a loser then I’ll have no friends. I’ll be alone. My family would still be there but they’ll have to find a girl for me and ….
Girl Thinking: I wonder if he’s going to ask me out. Why isn’t he... is there something wrong with me.

And so on and so forth and hence forth!

We assume. But assuming can also be interpreted as thinking ahead right? Like adding a big ‘What if’ to everything we do. But if we do that we would manage to convince ourselves of not doing anything because all what ifs end with a simple ‘what if I fail’!

So the real reason is we are afraid, afraid to take risks.

What I’m deducing now is confusion is caused by the fear of risk taking.

Shouldn’t we have to take risks sometimes in our lives? I mean it’s like Marlyne (Nemo’s dad) promising himself that he would never let anything happen to Nemo… then nothing would ever happen to or for him.

Hmm … Risk!

Why don’t we take risks? Because we imagine the worst!

WAIT! So imagination is the real cause of confusion…

That would make creative people the most confused people on earth!

I’m a self proclaimed creative guy… am I confused? No!

This monologue might make it seem that way but I’m not… I’m just typing out loud.

So I’m not confused… yet! So that deduction would be incorrect… imagination is not necessarily the real cause of confusion.

So is it the lack of adventure… spontaneity?

The fear of breaking routine, doing something other than the mundane, restraining us from breaking out and enjoying oneself that’s what confusion does! … Oh! Right! That’s what confusion DOES! It’s not the cause…

So we are not spontaneous! Why?
Because we can’t choose whether to go to office today or just take the day off. We choose office because we think door number two would cause severe repercussions, we imagine the worst hence the real cause of confusion is choice!

We have too much to choose from! If we take the day off then we would have to deal with what to do the rest of the day! Do you watch a movie? Do you play golf? Do you stay home and just laze? Then you remember that none of your friends have taken off hence you would be all alone. Nobody really wants to be alone. So you start ‘Self Motivating’ yourself. Telling yourself that office will be fun today, but then… it’s not!

Now you’re not confused! You’re just upset you didn’t just take the day off!

So choice leads to confusion which leads to disappointment.

Man that’s depressing. I suddenly don’t like the word ‘confuse’ anymore… it’s lost its appeal and charm… and it sounds abhorrent!

Abhorrent… heh heh funny word…